Thomas M. O’Brien

Thomas M. O’Brien, age 49, of Elmhurst, member Notre Dame Monogram Club, former member CBOT, owner of OrangeTheoryFitness in Geneva, St. Charles and South Elgin, LaCrosse Coach at IC Catholic Prep; beloved husband of Lisa, nee Luedecking; loving father of Brendan, Charles, Jack and Margaret; dear brother of Patricia (Tom) Guilfoile, Kathe (Joe) Rafferty and Maureen (Chris) Clancy; cherished son of the late Thomas (Barbara) and the late Patricia, nee Sullivan; fond uncle of many nieces and nephews. In lieu of flowers, to honor Tommy’s legacy and family, an O’Brien Family Trust has been established to benefit the family. Memorial Contributions may be made to The O’Brien Family Trust, and mailed c/o Erin Zimmer, 738 Wesley Ave, Oak Park, IL 60304 or Venmo: OBRIEN FAMILY TRUST. Funeral Services and Interment Private. Arrangements handled by Gibbons Funeral Home, Elmhurst. 630-832-0018 or www.gibbonsfuneralhome.com

 

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To honor Tommy’s legacy and family, an O’Brien Family Trust has been established to benefit the family.

Memorial Contributions may be made to

The O’Brien Family Trust, and mailed c/o Erin Zimmer, 738 Wesley Ave, Oak Park, IL 60304

or

Venmo: OBRIEN FAMILY TRUST.

135 comments on “Thomas M. O’Brien
  1. Steve Remy says:

    Lisa and family…we are so very sorry for your loss. Our heart breaks for all of you. I know Tom is now in heaven coaching one of his favorite players.

    Love from the Remy family.

  2. Dana Johnson says:

    The Johnson Family would like to extend our deepest condolences to the O’Brien family! Tom will truly be missed but never forgotten. May God bring you comfort during this time. Ivan, Dana, and Alia.

  3. John Kettelberger says:

    Lisa , my heart goes out to you and your children . Please know that my prayers are with you . Father John

    • The Hinsdale Central Lacrosse Team says:

      We want to express our condolences for your loss. Tom taught his players to show sportsmanship and to play their hearts out, he will be missed by the Illinois lacrosse community. Your family will be in our thoughts and prayers.

  4. Joe Williams says:

    Lisa I cannot believe this, I’m so so sorry. To you and your family know that you’re all in our prayers. I think about you often still sitting here behind your old childhood home. Tommy was a good guy May he Rest In Peace with our Heavenly Father. Joan, the Kids and I will be honoring your Family and Tommy with the Rosary tonight.

  5. Lisa McKinstry says:

    Lisa & family My condolences and sympathy for your loss. Prayers and strength during this difficult time. Tom was a great man always enjoyed talking to him.

  6. Mo and Butch Ziegler says:

    We are so very sad and sorry, Lisa. Our hearts go out to you, Brendan, Charlie, Jack, and Maggie. With all our love and prayers, Butch, Mo, and family.

  7. The Czyzycki Family says:

    Lisa, Brendan, Charlie, Jack and Margaret. We are in constant prayer for you and Tommy’s soul. Alice, Evan, Max and I cherished our years with you and IC Lax. It is hard to come to grips. He sacrificed so much of his and your family time to launch and sustain the IC lax program, a part of which our family was so happy to support. But Tommy took the lead and drove it. And boy did we have a time. It takes a special person to keep persevering in this endeavor especially when we were mostly a rag tag bunch. But Tommy kept forging ahead to make sure every kid left with an appreciation for teamwork and the sport. Our family will cherish his memory and his soul’s continuance and will pray so hard for your healing. I pray for the Holy Spirit to bring its healing flame upon you. The Czyzycki Family.

  8. Capano John E. says:

    Rest easy, Tommy.
    Peace
    Cap

  9. Colleen biggio says:

    I am so sorry to hear this sad news. I worked at IC Grade School and had the pleasure of knowing several of the O Brien kids. Please pass on my condolences. And please know that all of you are in my thoughts and prayers during this very difficult time. Sending hugs.
    Colleen Biggio

  10. Judy Jeff and Beau Brady says:

    Lisa, Jeff beau and I have you in our thoughts and prayers. He was such a kind and generous man. We will remember him always.

    With love tonight
    The Brady’s

  11. Deirdre Piggott says:

    So sorry to hear about Toms untimely passing. Sending you much strength

  12. Thomas Papastefan says:

    My deepest sympathies on your loss. May his memory be eternal. Tom Papastefan

  13. Sharon Spellman says:

    Words cannot express my sorrow for you Lisa, Brendan, Charlie, Jack & Maggie. Tommy OB was a sweet, kind, patient man loved by many. Prayers for you all and know you are loved and have support from many. xoxo

  14. Brendan Curran (CUR) says:

    So sorry for your loss and my family sends prayers to yours. I knew Tom from the CBOT and from my interactions with him can say he will always be considered a super person. We can only imagine the anguish your family is enduring and realize my words likely seem small, but knowing there are people praying about this will hopefully aid your bereavement. God’s speed to you and yours.

  15. Jeff Fredrickson says:

    I was shocked and saddened to hear about Tom’s passing. Words seem inadequate to express my sadness. I could see the pride in his eyes when we talked about his children’s athletic abilities.
    Thinking of you and your family at your time of grieving.

  16. Joe fasano says:

    To whole family it is with great sadness he was a good friend and fun work companion he will be missed…joe Fasano

  17. jeanne mcAnaney says:

    Tom was an outstanding asset to the Notre Dame lacrosse team both as a player and as a positive influence. He contributed on and off the field and endeared himself to teammates
    and parents alike. We have many fond memories of his years playing with our son, Eamon. All our love and condolences to his wife Lisa and their children. Jeanne and Ed McAnaney .

  18. Frank says:

    Rest In Peace Tommie

  19. Stacey Ratchford says:

    Lisa, I’m so sorry for your loss. Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

  20. Dan Zagorin says:

    Tommy was one of the hardest working honest guys I had the pleasure to trade with. His integrity was unmatched and he was always great to be around.

  21. Cathleen Mulligan says:

    We are so sorry for your loss. He was a wonderful man.
    The Mulligans

  22. Kelly Ann King-Taylor says:

    I am so very sorry to hear- Tom was a gentleman to work with in the corn pit- always pleasant to be around!

  23. Frank V DeAngelis says:

    My deepest and most sincere condolences for your loss. My family and I will continue to pray for the entire family and may the soul of Coach OB rest in peace. Please know that I am here for your family during this most difficult time.

  24. Tom Nichin says:

    My deepest condolences to the entire family. Charlie, Jack, & Maggie as well as the rest of the family are in our prayers.

    – Tom & Sandy Nichin

  25. Valerie Cimino says:

    So sorry for this terrible news, sending prayers and hugs to Lisa and the Kids.

  26. joey dones says:

    He was a great coach and you can tell he was a great father. Sending love to the family

  27. Rose Schneider says:

    So sorry to hear about Tom. He was always such a friendly, honest, and well like person. He will be truly missed. Prayers and hugs to his family. I knew Tom from the corn pit at the CBOT.

  28. Tom LeClair says:

    My sincere condolences to the O’Brien Clan. This past season at IC Prep, I had the honor of coaching Maggie and being introduced to Tom. Many a time, we had conversations about life, coaching and parenting. Tom never missed a game. He worshipped and loved Maggie and his family. He was a proud dad and husband. He was also passionate about teaching young adults lacrosse. He was funny.
    I will cherish our friendship. May Tom find peace.

  29. Bethanie Buckingham says:

    What a fantastic man, husband, friend, and dad. He will be missed by so many people. My heart goes out to all who knew him, especially Lisa and the kids. Love to you all.

  30. Juli Tatar says:

    Lisa,
    I am so sorry for the unimaginable pain, loss and heartbreak you and your family are enduring. My thoughts, prayers and love are with you all as you try to navigate your way through this difficult time.
    Much love, Juli Tatar

  31. Edward Maxwell says:

    I am so sorry for your troubles, Tom was a wonderful person he spoke of you and his children often with such affection and love. Again we are so sorry for your troubles, Ed and Pat Maxwell

  32. Theodore Vatch says:

    Tom was a Gentle, Gentle man. We will miss him. Peace to Lisa and children.

  33. Karin Fenton says:

    My condolences to the entire O’Brien family. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this horrific time.

    Karin Fenton

  34. Star Dieter says:

    Lisa, Brendan, Charlie, Jack & Maggie, my heart aches/weeps for all of you. Tom was a wonderful, kind, good man. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you during this extremely difficult time.
    Star and Jim

  35. David Lanz says:

    Lisa and family. I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
    David Lanz

  36. Claudia says:

    My heart breaks for all of you. May Tom rest in peace. Praying for all of you. Love from Claudia Johnson and family.

  37. Brian Grady says:

    Our deepest sympathy to the O’Brien family. Tom was a great coach and mentor for not only my son, but to a large number of kids for years and years. He had extreme patience with his players despite having some challenging years at Elmhurst LAX and ICCP, and always was positive. A tremendous loss and he will be missed by many people whom he has had a positive impact on their lives. We will continue to keep Lisa, Brendan, Charlie, Jack and Maggie in our prayers.
    The Grady Family

  38. Julie Page says:

    Lisa, I am so very sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you and your family. I will be praying and sending love to you and your family during this difficult time.

    Julie Goodwin-Page

  39. Mary Beth Ryan says:

    Lisa, Brendan, Charlie, Jack & Maggie,
    There truly are no words. We’re so very sorry for the loss of such an amazing husband, dad, coach and friend. He had such a positive spirit and was a great person to be around. Our thoughts and prayers are with you today and always. Tom, Mary Beth, Brendan, Maggie, Kathleen, Clare & Tommy Ryan

  40. Roseann says:

    Lisa, so very sorry for your family’s loss

  41. Allen and Barb Morris says:

    Dear Lisa Allen and I are heartbroken we pray for you and your family for strength and peace bless you

  42. LuAnn Conroy says:

    We are so very sorry to hear of the passing of Tom. Please accept our condolences. May you find peace and comfort at this difficult time. LuAnn and Pete Conroy

  43. Eamon McAnaney says:

    Lisa, I’m heart broken and so sorry for your loss. Tommy was the best. It was always great to see him and the boys when I made it back to ND for lacrosse games. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Please let us know how his former Irish teammates can help. Eamon and Brooke McAnaney

  44. Rosie Weppner says:

    Sending our deepest condolences to the O’Brien family. Out hearts are breaking for the family. Prayers and love from the Weppner family.

  45. Brian Fors says:

    Lisa, I am simply broken hearted for you and the kids. Know that the Fors family are praying for you and thinking of you guys.

  46. Corey Honore says:

    To the family:
    My deepest and heartfelt condolences! Tom was an amazing person. In my mind he was thoughtful, cheerful, selfless, a leader, a friend …and this is how he shall remain. May your heart and souls be comforted now and forevermore. Corey Honore

  47. Brian McHugh says:

    A great teammate and an even better guy. Rest in peace, Tommy.

  48. Katie Hanfland says:

    Lisa, Charlie, and family, I am so sorry for your loss and the heartbreak that you are experiencing. Tom was such a special man and a devoted father. We enjoyed spending time with him on the lacrosse fields. He will be missed by so many. We are thinking and praying for you often. Katie, David and Will Hanfland

  49. Mike Nagle says:

    Words cannot express how sad we are right now. Tommy, Lisa and the kids are part of the Nagle Family. Our memories of Tommy will sustain us during this time and remind us of his beautiful smile. Lisa, we are sending you all our love. -Mike and Mary Nagle

  50. Becky schomer says:

    Lisa, We are so sorry to hear about Tom’s passing. No words, I’m sure, can console, but know that we are praying for you and your children.
    Much love,
    Jason and Becky Schomer

  51. Cristine A Meyers says:

    Lisa,
    I am so very sorry to hear this terrible news. I pray that you can find peace, comfort and hope in the days to come.
    You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
    ~Cris Meyers

  52. Jeff Bryk says:

    Lisa,

    Words cannot express the kind and humble nature of Tom. From watching him interact with traders at the CBOT to raising his own kids and the kids of the Elmhurst community, he left a mark that will not be forgotten. We are saying prayers for you and the kids.

    Jeff and Katie Bryk

  53. Heather Thorrez Burton says:

    Love and prayers to you and your children Lisa. So very sorry for your loss.

  54. Isabel Durkin says:

    Dear Lisa, Brendan, Charlie, Jack and Maggie,
    We all share this sadness with you. Tommy was a kind and gentle person. Although our time at IC has passed, the memories he made will be eternal. May God’s mercy be upon all. Please trust that we are with you now and whenever you need a friend. Our deepest and sincerest sympathies. Peace be with you. Lovingly, Izzy, Mike. Joe, Sam and Matthew Durkin

  55. tom murphy says:

    too soon for a wonderful guy and father to leave us. Tom Murphy

  56. The Sidoryk Family says:

    Lisa and Family, We are so very sad to hear of Tom’s passing. We had so many ties with Elmhurst, youth lax, high school lax competition, OTF and Georgia Tech. Our thoughts and prayers are with you always. – The Sidoryk Family

  57. Kelly Nettleton says:

    Lisa and Family, We are so terribly sorry to hear about Tom’s passing. Our prayers and thoughts are with all of you. May God Bless your family and may Tom rest in peace. Jim and Kelly Nettleton

  58. Megan Martin says:

    Tommy was such a part of my family growing up. My Dad loved him like a son and they were the best team. My heart breaks to hear about this and thinking of the family.
    Megan Martin (Jim Leahy’s daughter)

  59. Jacquie Fowler says:

    Lisa, I am so very sorry. We lost a wonderful member of our OTF IL family this week and his contribution will never be forgotten. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  60. Margaret Bolender says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss. May the angels welcome him to paradise. Love and prayers to you and your family.
    Margaret Bolender

  61. Mike Ryan says:

    Just an all around good guy, the world could use a lot more people like Tom, May he Rest In Peace.

  62. Sue Harker says:

    Oh, Lisa….I have been sitting here trying to find the right words to express how I feel. But I realized there truly are no words. My heart is breaking for you and your kids. Just know that the communities you and Tom have so graciously and generously supported over the years are here to lift you up and help you find peace. God Bless – Sue Harker

  63. Gerald & Trudy Luedecking says:

    We are so sorry to learn of Tommy’s death. We are thinking of the O’Brien family and praying for you all.

  64. john dorn says:

    Family man, huge heart, and coach/mentor to many. Special guy gone too soon. Prayers and thoughts. John Dorn

  65. Bill Sullivan says:

    We are so sorry for your loss. Tom was such a quiet, genuinely nice guy. He is in our family’s prayers.

  66. Lindsey Lossie says:

    Lisa, I am so heartbroken for you and your family. Tom was a great man and will be missed by the OTF community.
    He was such a good sport in Boca wearing the muscle tee. ❤️
    Sending love, Lindsey Lossie

  67. Tom Fanning says:

    Really a fabulous guy I traded with him in the corn pit his honesty and integrity could not be matched. So sorry for your loss.
    Tom Fanning

  68. Mike Harkins says:

    My deepest condolences go out to Lisa and family. Tom was such a kind, welcoming, and wonderful person. OTF was always brightened by his positive and supportive presence, whether pushing each other through a workout, chatting about ND or hearing him speak highly of his kids. He will certainly be missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with your family.

    Mike and Lisa Harkins

  69. Sharon Robertson says:

    I am so so saddened to hear of Toms’s passing. I had the pleasure of working with him in the pit. A man of honor and integrity with a heart of gold. Prayers and God’s Blessings to all.
    Sharon Robertson

  70. Tim Creighton says:

    Not only a friend from the CBOT Corn Pit but a fellow Domer as well. What a wonderful man. May God bless him and your family.

  71. Jenn Presbitero says:

    Lisa, my heart goes out to you and the kids. I feel truly honored to have known Tom. His smile always brightened the room! You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

  72. Jodie Zajdel (Jodie Ann Lefere) says:

    Lisa, thinking of you and your family. Sending thoughts of strength & peace your way.

  73. Jeanne Nagle McNamara says:

    Jeanne Nagle McNamara
    So sorry to the whole O’Brien family. He was such a sweet soul I know jimmy will miss him immensely praying for your family.

  74. Sharon Dort says:

    Dear Lisa,

    I am so sorry and so sad for you and your beautiful family. I love you so much and want you to know I’m here for you any time of day or night! Love and prayers to everyone!
    Much love always, Sharon

    • Michelle Delvo (Shelly Grimes) says:

      Lisa and Family,
      I am so sorry to hear of your great loss. Please know that many are lifting you up in prayer.

  75. Bryan Luedecking says:

    Lisa, We’ve been thinking of you and your family non-stop. I wish we could offer more appropriate words or comfort, but please know we are sending our love and positive energy to each of you.

    Love, Bryan & Laurie

  76. Stephanie/Kevin Cooke says:

    Our thoughts and prayers are with the entire O’Brien family. Condolences and Godspeed Tom!

  77. Maureen Buckley Everling says:

    Dear Lisa, I’m heartbroken for you and your family. Such a great loss of a wonderful man. Sending love and prayers to you all.

  78. Ana Guzman says:

    Dear Lisa, we are very sorry for your loss. Our deepest condolences. You and your family are in our prayers. Loving, Ana, Celeste & Leo Guzman

  79. Nancy Kerrigan says:

    Lisa, Brendan, Charlie, Jack and Maggie – I am deeply saddened to hear the news of Tom’s passing and I am so very sorry for your loss. Tom was always so kind and soft spoken and he will be greatly missed. All of you are and will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers.
    Nancy D’Amore and family

  80. The Davis Family says:

    Heartbreak. He was a great mentor to the kids and his loss cannot be minimized. I find myself taking some peace knowing his impact on my child was positive and the life lessons he taught through Lacrosse will be in the heart of so many young men.

    God Bless you all.

    The Davis Family

  81. Cindy Cahill says:

    Lisa, We are so very sorry. I was at Notre Dame yesterday. I visited The Grotto and lit a candle for Tom and you and the kids. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Cindy and Jerry Cahill and Family.

  82. Alex Messing says:

    Wishing the O’Brien family my deepest sympathies and condolences. Tom was among the very best of the people I encountered in the trading community. A helper of young and old, incredibly hard working, with unmatched ethics and kindness. He is and will remain fondly remembered.
    Alex Messing

  83. Lynn McGivern says:

    My deepest sympathies. I enjoyed meeting Tom through OTF Geneva.

  84. Ryan Evans says:

    Lisa and Family,

    My sincerest sympathies to you and your family. I’m heartbroken to hear about the loss of Tom. Sending my thoughts and prayers.

    Ryan

  85. Chris Parent says:

    It was an honor to call Tom my classmate and teammate. He will be missed. Lisa, you and your family are in my prayers.

  86. Rob Roichek says:

    Truly one of the greatest guys on the CBOT trading floor. Rest in Peace TMO.

  87. The Petros Family says:

    Many condolences from the Petros Family. You are all in our thoughts and prayers. – Tony, Melissa, Eileen (ICGS 2014), and James (ICGS 2015)

  88. Brenda Mcnamara says:

    Dear Lisa and Family, we are so sorry to hear of your loss. Words can’t express our deepest sympathies for you and your family. We hold you in our hearts with prayers and love. Brenda & Jim McNamara

  89. Dina Schomer Collins says:

    Dear Lisa, my deepest condolences to you and your family. I Pray that you hold onto all the wonderful memories and they stay with you eternally. Please trust and know that so many of us are praying for you and are with you. Peace be with you my friend. I wish I could give you a hug.
    Dina Schomer Collins

  90. The Rickert Family says:

    It saddens us to hear the news of Tom’s passing. Although we’ve only known the O’Brien family for a brief amount of time while being part of the ICCP, it was always a pleasure to talk and be engaged with Tom, whether it was with IC LAX or working to help with IC Booster Club. Please accept our condolences during this tough time. Josh, Mary, Ian (ICCP ’20) & Gavin (ICCP ’23).

  91. Stephanie VanEekeren says:

    Our hearts are heavy as we remember and pray for a great man and his wonderful family. He and his fabulous plaid pants at many Christmas Eve masses will live on in our memory. Hugs to you all.

    The VanEekerens

  92. Tim Butterly says:

    Rest In Peace, Coach O’Brien. You will be missed. -The Butterly Family

  93. Miljanovic Family says:

    Love and prayers to the whole Family!

  94. Dan King says:

    Dear Lisa and Family,
    I’ve had the privilege of knowing Tom for many years at the CBOT in the corn pit. He was a man of unquestionable honor and integrity. He was never prouder than when he spoke of his family. He will be Greatly missed by all. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. May his soul RIP.
    Dan King

  95. Dave and Mary Ann Donovan says:

    We send our deepest condolences to you, Lisa and to your beautiful family. We have fond memories of Tommy growing up, playing lacrosse, becoming an Eagle Scout. He was a wonderful, kind and loving person who will be missed. Our prayers are with you and the entire O’Brien Family.

  96. Michelle Spizzirri says:

    We are saddened to hear of your tremendous loss. There is so much anger, fear, and division going on in the world currently that it is inconceivable to imagine dealing with another tragedy such as this to your hearts. We know the O’Brien’s are a strong family and will heal with time. God be with you. Our thoughts are with all of you and you will be in our prayers.

  97. Taylor Miglieri says:

    Lisa and Family, My thoughts are with you all during this time. I am so sorry for your loss. Your Orange family is here for you!

  98. Meggan Wagner says:

    We are saddened and heartbroken over this devastating news. Thoughts and prayers are with your family today and always. May you keep him close to your hearts with all of the amazing memories that you shared. He was a wonderful man with an incredible family who we enjoyed getting to know and will miss him dearly. We are here for you during this difficult time. Godspeed.
    Love, The Wagners
    Rob, Meggan, Abi and Claire

  99. Mary Jo Swartout says:

    Lisa and family,
    Thinking of you and holding you in our prayers.
    We are so sorry for the loss of your dear husband.
    David and Mary Jo Swartout

  100. Meggan Wagner says:

    Our deepest sympathy to your family during this difficult time. We are so saddened over this heartbreaking news. Thoughts and prayers are with you today and always. He was a wonderful man that we enjoyed getting to know. May you find peace in all of the memories that you shared together. We are here for you Lisa (& kids) if you need anything.
    Godspeed.
    Love, The Wagners
    Rob, Meggan, Abi & Claire

  101. Addie + Dan Rediger says:

    Lisa, Brendan, Charlie, Jack, and Maggie… Tommy will live on in our hearts and memories as a man who loved his family and did everything with a genuine heart, hard-working spirit, and kind soul. I have many happy memories of Tommy and will always remember his friendly smile. Hold your memories close. He lives in your heart.
    Praying for all who loved him and called him friend,
    Addie & Dan Rediger

  102. Colleen says:

    My prayers and thoughts are with your entire family at this difficult time. Colleen Clancy

  103. Manus Clancy says:

    It is with great saddest that .we learned of Tommy’s passing. He was a great camper He always had a smile on his face and was always the first one to volunteer 7to help
    others
    Manus & Tim Clancy

  104. Annie Wentzel says:

    Lisa,
    Sending heartfelt thoughs to all of you in this difficult time. Thinking of you, Brendan, and your beautiful family.
    Loving prayers,
    Annie Wentzel

  105. Annie Wentzel says:

    Lisa,
    Sending heartfelt thoughts to all of you in this difficult time. Thinking of you, Brendan, and your beautiful family.
    Loving prayers,
    Annie Wentzel

  106. Peter Senger says:

    Lisa and family, you are all in my thoughts and prayers. I have many fond memories of my time with Tom on and off the lacrosse field. Proud to have been his teammate.

  107. Jennifer Hirsch says:

    All of us at GT Serve-Learn-Sustain are thinking of you, Brendan, and your dear family, during this very difficult time. We are here for you whenever you need us. May you find peace in loving memories. – Jenny, Kris, Ruthie, Jamie, Rebecca, David

  108. John Farrell says:

    All our love and prayers go out to your family John and Eileen Farrell

  109. Mike Denzler & the Denzler familty says:

    I am devastated to hear of Tommy’s passing. My heart aches with all of you. Sending my love and prayers to Tommy and his family.

  110. MAry and Bill Negra says:

    We knew Tommie as a child and young man. We camped and skied with him and his family. Knowing the wonderful family he came from, it is no surprise he was a man of honor and fun. Our sincere condolences to all his family. May you cherish the wonderful memories of his life. MAry and Bill Negra

  111. Bill and Mary Negra says:

    We only knew Tom as a child and young man. We skied and camped with him and his family. Knowing him then, it is no surprise he was a man of honor and fun. Our sincere condolences to his whole family

  112. Gina Rizza says:

    Lisa, my heartfelt condolences to you and your family on the loss of your husband Brian Sincerely, Gina Rizza

  113. Mark Hexamer says:

    To Lisa and the children –

    My thoughts and prayers are with you. It was an honor to call Tom a teammate and a friend. The first word that comes to mind when I think of Tom is kind. In all the time I knew him I never heard him say a bad word about anyone. You won’t find anyone who will have one negative thing to say about Tom. Positive, fun, always smiling, always laughing, generous in spirit. He was someone you wanted to be around, and made any room he entered a happier one. That’s how I will remember him always.

    Rest in peace Tom
    Mark Hexamer

  114. Beth Ann Fennelly says:

    Lisa, I’m struggling to find words to say how sorry I am for your suffering. My husband joins me in wishing you and your family peace.

  115. Mary Anne Wall says:

    Lisa and family, I was so sad to hear of your loss. Tommy will be missed. Please know that I will be thinking and praying for you during this difficult time.

  116. Marilee says:

    Thinking of your family.

  117. Joe Paolelli says:

    Dear Mrs. O’Brien, Brendan, Charlie, Jack, and Maggie,

    My heart and prayers go out to all of you in your tragic time of loss. Grief cannot be chased away or hurried, especially by words, but I want you all to know that I am praying for you (each one of you, specifically) and will continue to do so. May God nourish your hearts with what you need each day until you can see the light again…it is there, and you will find it.

    Sending all my support, prayers, and love,
    Joe Paolelli
    “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding…” (Proverbs 3:5)

  118. Barbara and John Lovett says:

    Words are not enough to express the sadness in our hearts. We are sending you, your children and the entire O’Brien Clan our love and prayers

    Barbara, John and the Lovett Family

  119. John says:

    Lisa, my heart aches deeply for you and your entire family. Tom touched the lives of so many, and we are all eternally grateful. Sending you and the children so much strength, energy and love during this time. Your Orange family is here for you and we will all help see you through this.

    Love and prayers,
    John and the Schrieffer Family

  120. Bill Troiano says:

    I haven’t spoken to Tom since our high school days and I only have the fondest memories of him…he was incredibly kind and fun to be around. Our thoughts and prayers go out to his wife and family, God bless all of you.

  121. Barb Nelson says:

    Dear Lisa and family, my condolences go out to you all. Please know I will continue to send prayers and peace. Sincerely, Barb Nelson

  122. Rob Hart says:

    Lisa I am so sorry to hear about Tom. My prayers are with you and your family.

  123. Glenn Cocoman says:

    To Lisa and the children-
    Tommy was a friend in college. I haven’t seen him many times since, but every time I did see him it was like we had seen just each other yesterday. I will always remember him smiling. He was just such a great guy to be around. I am proud to say he was my friend. I just want to share my condolences with your entire family. So sorry for your loss.
    Sincerely-
    Glenn Cocoman and family

  124. Alex Kottoulas says:

    Tommy was a great guy to work with on the floor. He had integrity and was a very hard worker. I was sadden to hear of his passing. My thoughts are with his family during this difficult time. RIP TMO.

  125. Karen Bielski says:

    So sorry. Tommy was always very nice to work with. May he rest in peace.

  126. Emily Rowell says:

    I am so sad to hear of your loss. I will always remember the look of his kind face.
    Love and prayers.
    Eric and Emily Rowell

  127. Pat and Lin Stacey says:

    Lisa, We were so sad to hear of Tommy’s passing. Although our interactions with him at OTF St Charles were short, they spoke volumes to us about the kind and gentle man he was. He knew little of us, but he showed care and compassion and always asked about Lin. We keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers. We pray that time and wonderful memories will give you comfort and peace.
    Lin and Pat Stacey

  128. Shawn W. Mann says:

    LIsa and Family, I am very saddened to hear of Tom’s passing, My prayers and thoughts out to the O’Brien Family. God Bless
    Shawn & Melissa Mann and Family

  129. Marianne Wills says:

    I am so very sorry to hear of Tom’s passing – praying for God’s peace & comfort over you & your beautiful family at this most difficult time.
    Marianne Wills & family

  130. Jacqueline Miller says:

    To Lisa, and family, I grew up through school, church and the camping group with Toms sisters, but my sister was the same grade in school. As some of the other campers group members have said he came from an amazing family, and grew up to be a wonderful man as well as I’m sure, incredible husband and father. I watched the video and it shows the adventures, experiences and memories you will all cherish forever. My thoughts & prayers will be with you all in the coming days and weeks ahead. He will always be with all of you, watching over and loving you all. He knows how much you all love him.

  131. Phil, A.J., Luke, & Eva Videckis says:

    Our most profound condolences to Lisa, Brendan, Charlie, Jack, and Maggie. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Phil, A.J. (ICGS 2010), Luke (ICGS 2012), and Eva Videckis

  132. Joy Davis says:

    Lisa, Brendan, Charlie, Jack and Maggie – our sincere condolences to you. We are deeply saddened with Tom’s passing. Please know you are all in our thoughts and prayers.

    From,
    Todd, Joy, Clark, Paige and Hazel Davis

  133. Nick Hall says:

    Heartbreaking. I knew Tommy from a young age…he played soccer with my brother Chris (who also passed away) and was coached by my Dad, Nobby. We both lived on Christian Avenue. But most of all I remember when we played Notre Dame (I played at Villanova), when the game was over, Tommy sought me out as a “Ward Melville Lacrosse Brother” and we had a great chat after the game. Such a kind soul. I am so sad for he and his family. I’ve gone through this myself…and I know the pain. God bless Tommy…such a great person.

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